The Hair Lesson

My hair has always been a problem.. Always!

The only time my hair has been my 'pride and joy' was when I was a little girl! When I tell my friends right now about how my hair used to be full, long and healthy, they laugh at me in disbelief.. 

Well for a long time I have been contemplating going natural 'cos I see that holding on my past glory has not done me any good for the past four years! 

So after a long, long battle, I cut my hair...today! I and I feel relieved...

Well it took a while for this to happen... cos I still catch myself running my hands through my hair and I am still in a little shock when I pass by the mirror..

Anyway, I came back home and called my boyfriend, CJ, and started whining about how my hair made me look like a  little schoolgirl all over again.. And CJ, with the most amazing and loving heart just said "Sweetie, you still have your looks and your personality; your short hair does not make you any different". God bless his soul, he really is the best!

Anyway, it got me thinking, once again, on how I sometimes make the mistake of thinking that what I have on and what i wear determines who I am. I am not saying that you shouldn't look lovely when you dress, pleeeaaasssee do! 

But CJ made a point, a very important point (and he continues to reassure in many ways): He loves me just the way I am.... God loves you just the way you are! beautiful, irresistible, gorgeous, phenomenal woman! 

So CJ... if you read this blog... thank you for that lesson...  I love u!

Phenomenal Woman

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies
I'm not cute or built to suit a fashion model's size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I'm telling lies.
I say,
It's in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It's the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can't touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them
They say they still can't see.
I say,
It's in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

Now you understand
Just why my head's not bowed.
I don't shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It's in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need of my care,
'Cause I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me. 

~Maya Angelou

Incorruptible Beauty

So many times we look at people and judge or determine who they are just because of how they look. Before considering their personality and relationships with other people, we look at what they are wearing and how they look like.

Incorruptible beauty; beauty that can change the atmosphere in a room; beauty that makes people wonder who you are and what makes you different from others. Beauty that can be traded for ashes; beauty that does not depend on what you wear or what you have. That is what we should long for: one that cannot be given to us by men of this world, one that only God gives.

Beauty on the inside has to do with character, the way you comport yourself and most importantly, how you treat others around you. Soon, your inner beauty matches with what is on the outside. And when it does, that is what we call BEAUTIFUL. Beauty lies within; who we truly are and who God has created us to be. For we are fearfully and wonderfully made by God; He saw us and said "It Is Good". We are good, we are His workmanship, we are His artwork on a piece of canvas.